Brian Johnson's "Think Arete"
Oct. 20th, 2008 11:25 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
carocrowFrom the email box:
You think love is a “nice to have” kinda thing? That we can live without it?
Well, according to Drs. Lewis, Amini and Lannon in their book, “A General Theory of Love”:
“Adults remain social animals: they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. That open-loop design means that in some important ways, people cannot be stable on their own–not should or shouldn't be, but can't be.”
Wow.
My expression for this is that I can roll better when there's another wheel on the axle. I don't necessarily think this means we have to have a *mate*, but that we need to love and be loved, to be in relationship with *someone*, in order to feel motivated. Whether it's a friend, family member, child, lover or even a pet, having an anchor (or a matching wheel) is important to us as humans. I recall a friend telling me once that relationships were less important than self development, and I replied that relationships *are* self development.
You think love is a “nice to have” kinda thing? That we can live without it?
Well, according to Drs. Lewis, Amini and Lannon in their book, “A General Theory of Love”:
“Adults remain social animals: they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. That open-loop design means that in some important ways, people cannot be stable on their own–not should or shouldn't be, but can't be.”
Wow.
My expression for this is that I can roll better when there's another wheel on the axle. I don't necessarily think this means we have to have a *mate*, but that we need to love and be loved, to be in relationship with *someone*, in order to feel motivated. Whether it's a friend, family member, child, lover or even a pet, having an anchor (or a matching wheel) is important to us as humans. I recall a friend telling me once that relationships were less important than self development, and I replied that relationships *are* self development.
